A young colleague of mine approached me for advice on matters of the heart.
She told me that she like a guy very much but he doesn't like her.
She said that he had just broke up with her girl friend and hence have been seeking her for emotional support. She grew to like him but he rejected her.
I simply reply to her that since he rejected her, might as well give him up. If he is meant to be yours, he will be yours. It's no point forcing love.
She then told me that she left her jacket at his shop. He brought it home as he doesn't want to leave it in the shop. He told her he wanted to take her jacket and hug it to sleep.
I am shocked at what she told me. If he doesn't like her, why give the false impression that he likes her after rejecting her? So, I request her to get the jacket back. However, she said she would like to leave the jacket with him because she wants him to keep it.
After listening to her, I get all confused. I know when it comes to the matter of the heart, sometimes, it is difficult to declare your love in front of the person you like. If it is a like, it is a like. It is never in the grey area.
Perhaps, the guy does like her but is not ready to accept a new relationship and hence such response. However, it can also be the case whereby he wants to get someone better than her and yet refuses to let her go in the meantime while he is searching. I do not want to guess since I am not him.
I wonder if there is a generation gap between me and my colleague. She seemed to be eager to wait for the love to come despite my advice not to pursue the relationship further. I wonder if she had watched too much of idol drama series. But if I am her, I think I would simply say bye bye to my puppy love and remains as friend with the guy. I think there are a lot more things out there to look forward to other than love.
Now, what will I say to my children if they were to approach me for similar advice? I guess I would have said the same thing. Hopefully, they will heed my advice and not keep dwelling on that matter. Just the old saying, "Besides love, there are still a lot to look forward to."