Remember the colleague I mentioned in Generation Gap? She showed me her photo on her handphone today. It is just shadows. From the shadows, I can see that one of them is her, the other is a guy. So I asked her whether he is the one whom she talked about the last time. I thought they were finally together. To my surprise, she answered that this is her long time boyfriend !!! Out of reflex, I just uttered, "You have to be loyal! You have to be loyal to your partner!" She told me she does not intend to get married.
Sigh... I do not know why and could not understand why the younger generation now behaves in this manner. I thought once you found a partner, you should stay loyal?
Is the society changing too fast that I can't catch up? Is there peer pressure that one should have lots of partners? Or is there just too much heartbreakers around that we have to have more than one partner so that we feel more secure? Regardless what the reason is, not getting married is certainly not an excuse for having multiple partners.
I do not know what she is thinking and how many people think like her.
However, I always feel if I were to treat my partner right, he will return the favour. If he does not, it's time to move on. I don't think I have the heart to break his heart. Just cringe at the thought of how he will feel when he finds out if I ever two-timed him. It would simply break his heart into pieces. No, two timing is never an option for me! One thing for sure, if you treat someone badly, you do not expect nice treatment from the other party.
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Monday, May 12, 2008
Monday, March 3, 2008
Generation Gap
A young colleague of mine approached me for advice on matters of the heart.
She told me that she like a guy very much but he doesn't like her.
She said that he had just broke up with her girl friend and hence have been seeking her for emotional support. She grew to like him but he rejected her.
I simply reply to her that since he rejected her, might as well give him up. If he is meant to be yours, he will be yours. It's no point forcing love.
She then told me that she left her jacket at his shop. He brought it home as he doesn't want to leave it in the shop. He told her he wanted to take her jacket and hug it to sleep.
I am shocked at what she told me. If he doesn't like her, why give the false impression that he likes her after rejecting her? So, I request her to get the jacket back. However, she said she would like to leave the jacket with him because she wants him to keep it.
After listening to her, I get all confused. I know when it comes to the matter of the heart, sometimes, it is difficult to declare your love in front of the person you like. If it is a like, it is a like. It is never in the grey area.
Perhaps, the guy does like her but is not ready to accept a new relationship and hence such response. However, it can also be the case whereby he wants to get someone better than her and yet refuses to let her go in the meantime while he is searching. I do not want to guess since I am not him.
I wonder if there is a generation gap between me and my colleague. She seemed to be eager to wait for the love to come despite my advice not to pursue the relationship further. I wonder if she had watched too much of idol drama series. But if I am her, I think I would simply say bye bye to my puppy love and remains as friend with the guy. I think there are a lot more things out there to look forward to other than love.
Now, what will I say to my children if they were to approach me for similar advice? I guess I would have said the same thing. Hopefully, they will heed my advice and not keep dwelling on that matter. Just the old saying, "Besides love, there are still a lot to look forward to."
She told me that she like a guy very much but he doesn't like her.
She said that he had just broke up with her girl friend and hence have been seeking her for emotional support. She grew to like him but he rejected her.
I simply reply to her that since he rejected her, might as well give him up. If he is meant to be yours, he will be yours. It's no point forcing love.
She then told me that she left her jacket at his shop. He brought it home as he doesn't want to leave it in the shop. He told her he wanted to take her jacket and hug it to sleep.
I am shocked at what she told me. If he doesn't like her, why give the false impression that he likes her after rejecting her? So, I request her to get the jacket back. However, she said she would like to leave the jacket with him because she wants him to keep it.
After listening to her, I get all confused. I know when it comes to the matter of the heart, sometimes, it is difficult to declare your love in front of the person you like. If it is a like, it is a like. It is never in the grey area.
Perhaps, the guy does like her but is not ready to accept a new relationship and hence such response. However, it can also be the case whereby he wants to get someone better than her and yet refuses to let her go in the meantime while he is searching. I do not want to guess since I am not him.
I wonder if there is a generation gap between me and my colleague. She seemed to be eager to wait for the love to come despite my advice not to pursue the relationship further. I wonder if she had watched too much of idol drama series. But if I am her, I think I would simply say bye bye to my puppy love and remains as friend with the guy. I think there are a lot more things out there to look forward to other than love.
Now, what will I say to my children if they were to approach me for similar advice? I guess I would have said the same thing. Hopefully, they will heed my advice and not keep dwelling on that matter. Just the old saying, "Besides love, there are still a lot to look forward to."
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